Friday, March 21, 2014

grounded magazine

I am so happy to have an essay published in the Grow issue of Grounded Magazine.  Grounded is an online publication and space for parents to come together to share, reflect, and build a supportive community.  There are very few places that offer the thoughtfulness and mindfulness for parents that this magazine embodies.  I think it is unique for its heart and for its quietness.  And I am honored to be a part of it.

The world can be a noisy place, especially when you add the sounds and needs and creativity and growing of children, in my case three children, into the mix.  Sometimes you find yourself standing in the middle of this chaos, happy to be there, but also trying to think through some moment, some current struggle, some development, that happened during the day.  Grounded Magazine offers a place where you can quiet the noise and feel surrounded, virtually.  Where other parents are also pondering, wondering, and regrouping, trying to figure out how we are going to roll in this parenting gig, ever changing as it is.  While we also are trying to figure out how to be adults, to be supportive within our adult relationships, and to be parents together, and how we can pick up and move forward and grow.

My essay is about a unexpected storm in the woods, and -- years later -- about an approaching storm on a rock in the middle of a lake.  And how Julia and I were together in those moments.  Reflection.  It is such a wonderful place to be able to go to.  It all starts in your noisy kitchen, or as you are sitting by a lake, or on the side of a playground, or when you hear yourself, see yourself in a way that surprises you.  You are fighting against yourself, and your child self, and the many other selves in between.  All while trying to allow your child to grow.

A place like Grounded gives you the space to think about it, reflect upon it, think about what feelings and issues were being brought up for you in that moment.  For me, it wasn't until I connected my younger self -- cold and wet and fearful, sitting on the end of a diving board at the YWCA in my hometown -- that I was able to really understand, to reflect upon how different Julia can feel in similar situations.

As I write, what begins as one moment somehow gets connected to another, and then I find myself wondering, pondering, exploring why this connection may have occurred.  What theme, personalization, shift in the air or light, might have caused two unrelated moments to blend and try to teach me something.  Writing the essay gave me the opportunity to do, at the very least, a little bit better now.  And hopefully to be able to do a little bit better next time.

Because really, that's what parenting, and growing, is all about.

1 comment:

  1. Rebecca, thank you very much. Your post speaks directly to our aim for Grounded. We're so excited to have you as a part of the Grow issue.


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